Men’s Mental Health - The Importance of Recognising Early Warning Signs
As with all statistics, they’re only as good as the numbers recorded. When it comes to men’s mental health, we can assume that despite the bleak outlook the statistics surrounding it already report, the numbers are actually much higher. Men are notorious for keeping their health concerns to themselves, and this is particularly true regarding their own mental health.
Please note, if your child or someone you know has just attempted suicide, is seriously injured or in a life-threatening condition please call 999 and stay with them until the emergency services arrive.
The information below is not intended as medical advice and is only intended to offer points you may wish to consider in 'non-emergency situations', together with signposting for more support. You should consult an appropriate medical professional if you have concerns about your child or someone you know.
Recent statistics from the Mental Health Foundation
- One in eight men has a common mental health problem such as depression, anxiety, panic disorder or obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD).
- Men are three times as likely to die by suicide as women.
- Men aged 40-49 have the highest suicide rates in the UK.
- Men are less likely to access psychological therapies than women.
- Men are nearly three times as likely as women to become dependent on alcohol, and three times as likely to report frequent drug use.
Why do men often struggle at asking for help with their mental health?
It’s suggested that gender stereotypes may play a role when it comes to men being less likely to seek help. Typically, men are expected to be strong, in control and capable but there’s likely many more factors at play. Mental health tends to creep up on you, gradually affecting an individual more and more over time, and men may initially turn a blind eye, explaining it as a bad couple of days, a bad couple of weeks, or months or possibly even years without facing there’s a real issue there. For many men, discussing emotions isn’t something that comes easily, so acknowledging and talking about a mental health problem could feel unnatural or overwhelming, and initially it may seem easier to try and explain away, rather than face the possibility of treatment.
Recognising the early signs
As with all health conditions, catching something early usually results in a much better outcome for the individual suffering. With mental health it isn’t as simple as connecting the dots together of physical symptoms to find a diagnosis, although physical symptoms do often play a part. It’s often a much more subtle process, with mental health gradually affecting an individual over a long period of time. However, there are a number of ways depression, anxiety, panic attacks and OCD can present themselves, and it’s important to be aware of these potential indicators, as listed from the National Institute of Mental Health.
- Anger, irritability or aggressiveness
- Noticeable changes in mood, energy levels or appetite
- Difficulty in sleeping, or sleeping too much
- Difficulty in concentrating and/or feeling restless
- Misuse of alcohol and/or drugs
- Feelings of sadness or hopelessness, maybe including suicidal thoughts
- Engaging in high-risk activities
- Aches, headaches, digestive problems, without a clear cause
Reading through the above list goes some way into further explaining why men’s mental health issues often go unnoticed for so long as in their earliest forms they are so commonplace.
This puts the focus onto those that know the individual best. Perhaps you’re a sibling, a parent, a close friend or a partner, and the male in your life has adopted a number of the above behaviours over time. If it’s enough to raise questions or concern, then it’s time to open a dialogue with them about their mental health.
How to support a man suffering with a mental health disorder
When trying to support a man – or indeed anyone - who is struggling with their mental health, the key is to consider that person as an individual and tailor your support to suit their specific needs.
Mental health charity MIND puts it simply:
- Listen
- Offer reassurance
- Stay calm
- Be patient
- Try not to make assumptions
- Keep social contact
It might be that you’re able to support in other ways as well. This might include providing information about their condition or support groups, attending appointments with them, or even offering practical help such as childcare, household tasks or shopping. It’s important to not to pressure that individual, and accept that the best thing you can be is available, even if they don’t want to accept help or talk about their mental health struggles at the present time.
However, if this person has harmed themselves and needs medical attention, is having suicidal thoughts and feel as though they might act of them, or are putting themselves or someone else in immediate danger, you need to call 999 and request an ambulance, or take them to A&E.
The below resources may prove beneficial at providing both information and support surrounding men’s mental health.
Take a look at our ideas and activities below for helping grandparents and their grandchildren build strong relationships, even amid ever-changing pandemic restrictions.
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Grandparents can play a special role in your child's life. They're uniquely qualified to be friends, mentors, and guides, offering a sense of connection and tradition. Whether grandparents live nearby or faraway, they can support and enhance your role as a parent - even if spending time together in person isn't an option at the moment.
No two families are alike, and grandparent-grandchild relationships come in many different styles. Trust and respect grandparents to find their own ways to relate to and interact with your child - but be sure to encourage their bond.
How to Bond with Grandparents from Far Away
Whether grandparents and grandchildren are separated by miles, or they're unable to see each other in person due to COVID-19 restrictions and guidelines, here are some ways to help them connect:
- Use FaceTime, Skype, Zoom, Whatsapp, Messenger Kids, or similar technology to communicate on a regular basis. Being able to see grandparents makes the interaction more concrete, especially for the littlest ones.
- Take video chats outside so they can go for a walk "together" - they can show each other their surroundings and anything interesting they see.
- Bring back the pen pal relationship. Encourage your child to write notes, postcards or draw pictures to send to their grandparents - and vice versa.
- Take photos and videos of your child doing different activities - riding their bike, swinging on the monkey bars, shooting a basketball - and send them on a regular basis.
- Ask grandparents to record songs, lullabies, and bedtime stories to be shared again and again.
- Share stories and history. If your grandparents have a special skill like speaking a foreign language, playing guitar or a passion for something like sewing, trains or Shakespeare, can they 'teach' it to their grandchildren online.
- Send grandparents small mementos, such as your child's artwork or crafts.
- Establish new regular traditions like virtual Friday night ice cream dates, weekend breakfasts or brunches.
How to Bond with Grandparents in Person
If your parents (or your spouse's parents) live with you, help them make the most of their time together under the same roof. These ideas are also great for times when we are able to be together in person again.
Many grandparents enjoy playing leisurely with their grandchildren, but some may need a few suggestions to get the ball rolling. Encourage grandparents to introduce games from their childhoods, such as hide and seek, jacks, jump rope, marbles, hopscotch, and others.
Some children enjoy simply talking to or participating in everyday routines with their grandparents, such as working in the garden or making a meal. Grandparents can also pass on family traditions and history as they share stories or look through photo albums with your child.
Grandparental Activities that can be done in person or virtually
- Reading stories
- Going for a walk, or walking while on a virtual call
- Cooking or baking together, especially a favourite family recipe
- Board games
- Singing nursery rhymes together
